Hey single person…
Am I interrupting your scrolling through Facebook or Instagram feed looking at people with their bae (or boo...or babe...)with a pile of wadded up, cried-in Kleenexes and Russell Stover chocolates you bought yourself from Walgreens?
Ok. I just read someone’s mail. No condemnation here.
Since you are not on a hot valentine’s date tonight (sorry to remind you again…) I figured you would have time to read a short post about 3 reasons why single life really rocks and how to really make the most of this time.:
1. You can go on Adventures.
This is one of my favorite things about single-hood. As a single person, your decisions really are between you and Jesus. Girls, we are solely submitted to Him until we are called to submit to a husband. Many of my friends are married with kids and it’s a beautiful thing. When they want to go on an adventure, there are more people that are dependent on their decision. They must check schedules, look for babysitters, then possibly say yes to that coffee date you asked them to go on.
Y’all. If I want to go to a coffee shop and drink coffee all day long…I can. And you know I will.
I can pick up and go.
Most of my married friends will tell me to make the most of this season of not having two schedules to compare.
I mean, I will gladly welcome another schedule in my life and giving up my all day coffee dates…but we’re looking at the glass half full, people.
2. You can know who you are and who you're called to be
I can’t have a blog about singleness unless I put in the good quote: “Two halves don’t make a whole.” I don’t know who said it, but you probably heard it once or twice at a youth retreat. I remember having a conversation years ago with someone about starting a ministry. I remember saying, “I’m not going to go into ministry until I meet my husband. We can begin our ministry together.”
God had a different idea and I’m so grateful. I’ve seen that pattern before but that’s apparently not how God saw my life in His book.
Weren’t my little plans so cute?
I’m pretty sure that’s how God sees my plans. Cute..and little.
His plans are always bigger.
But I just have to ask…why would I wait to share the Gospel until I meet someone. Is it a ring on my finger that qualifies me to be a lover of people?
No man saved me except Jesus Christ.
No man completes me except Him.
Ephesians 5:26 in the Message Translation says, “Christ’s love makes the church whole.”
I wholeheartedly agree that as a woman, you are called to be your husband’s helper so I believe there are parts of what we are called to do that are not fulfilled until that time comes. But that doesn’t mean we just sit around and wait to be effective. It’s like women feel like they are not allowed to influence their world until they are standing by a man’s side. Who said?
There is so much to do in every season of life you are in. There are lessons to be learned in each season.
I wrote a blog about 3 years ago about making the most of every season you find yourself in. Read here: http://www.lovetothenations.com/blog/2014/2/20/lessons .
Your validity is not in your relationship status. Your validity is in Jesus Christ.
I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to run without stopping, full-speed into Kingdom things.
3. You can give of yourself.
The only way you are able to live single life well is if you really really live it. Instead of sitting in a corner, moping about your current love life (or lack of it) you can live a life loving with undivided attention.
It’s true, you have this freedom to go and do whatever you want, but what if we used this liberty as time for love and devotion to the Lord and to others?
The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 7:35 that when you are unmarried you can give yourselves completely to the Lord’s service without any reservation
If I have this freedom to go and do whatever I want, I want to make the most of it.
Give of yourself by spending your time in the presence of Jesus.
Give of yourself by giving your time to the widow that is lonely.
Give of yourself by pouring out love onto the unlovely.
Don’t wait to be in a relationship to pour out your life in love.
Be encouraged, friend. Your time will come where you will be running this life’s race with another. But go ahead and run now. There’s a race to win and the start gun has already gone off.
What are (or were) your favorite things about being single?? * Feel free to read comments if you still are tempted to drown your sorrows in that russell stover box again...
For the Kingdom,