This post is originally from July 19, 2012 

“I hate being single. I just can’t wait to get married.”:

Most popular words spoken by any woman not betrothed.

You may have heard this before. You may have even said it. Whether or not you have said it, chances are you probably have thought it.

Maybe you thought it when you were in the running for the sequel of 27 dresses.

Or when you were reminded of your relationship status on facebook. Your profile remains “single”, while Susie and Janna and Melissa all changed to “Engaged”…in one night.

What about that infamous task of carrying grocery bags in to the house by yourself? You know, the one where you try to take the 15 grocery bags in one trip? That’s usually when the thought comes to me…

It’d be really nice to be married right now.

When we really get down to it and see that statement for what it really is, what we are actually saying is:

I’d really like to be in the next season of my life right now.

One day I was going throughout my day and I began thinking about how great it would be if I was married (It may have been on one of my grocery carrying contests). And the Lord stopped the thought by speaking to my heart saying, “There are things I still want to show you in this season.”

The scripture in Matthew 11 which says “Come and learn of me” immediately came to me.

I knew there were things I had yet to learn of Him in this season. Things that were specific to this time in life.

I then began to think of every season in my life.

How did I know God as a child? Who was He to me in that time?

He was GOD.




I was always safe, because He was always BIG.

What about coming in to my teen years? Who was He to me?

My Constant Companion.

No matter how distant I was to Him. No matter how up-and-down my relationship was with Him, He was always there.

As I went off to college, I began to know Him from a different perspective:

My Father.

He always had been my Father, I just hadn’t really experienced Him as my Father until college.
It was in that season that I became immovable in my knowing that He loved me, just because I was His child.

Now after being on my own for a few years, I have come to know Him from this place:

He is my Provider.

My Strong-hold.

That’s where I am and I find GREAT JOY in how He continues to reveal Himself to me, no matter how long I am in this season.

This journey of my life so far has been a progression of experiencing God and who He really is in a closer way.

I know when I get married I will know Jesus Christ from a different place in my life.
I will experience what it is to be loved as Christ loves the Church.

When I have children of my own…another lesson of His character.

Each season is us experiencing Him.

We find out and know who God is by reading the Bible.
Each of these seasonal “lessons” are only a confirmation of what we have seen from His Word. His Word is the foundation for us to learn His character.

Every lesson is building on top of the next one.

I am thankful for His fellowship with us.

I am strengthened in this season when I realize God is saying, “There are still things I want to show you.” So I am strengthened when I take the time to come to Him and learn those things.

If you are single, be empowered.

Live today like you are not missing anything.

Having the desire to be married is not wrong, but the mistake many single people have made is that the desire to be married has become the foundation of their season.

Let the foundation of  each season be Jesus Christ...and every desire will be fulfilled in their due time.

[For my determined purpose is] that I may know Him [that I may progressively become more deeply and intimately acquainted with Him, perceiving and recognizing and understanding the wonders of His Person more strongly and more clearly], and that I may in that same way come to know the power outflowing from His resurrection [[a]which it exerts over believers], and that I may so share His sufferings as to be continually transformed [in spirit into His likeness even] to His death
Philippians 3:10

No matter if you are single, married, whether you are a parent, or a grandparent, there are things God has in store for you to learn and know in the current season you are walking in.

Let us learn of Him.

What lessons have you learned of Him in each season of your life? If you are older, what wisdom do you have from your experience in each season?